Dear Cheryl: I went online to find a friend with benefits. I didnt want to get serious at this stage in my life. I got responses from a lot of freakos, then I actually found one man I wanted to meet. The sparks flew! We had a few very nice evenings, and then we actually became great friends!
Hes turned out to be the best friend Ive had in a long time. We see each other three or four times a week. I know where he works, where he lives pretty much all there is to know about him.
The problem is, now that were friends, the sparks are gone on his part. Im at a loss as to whats going on. I dont think hes sleeping with other people because he works a lot, and when hes not he calls me. Baffled
Dear Baffled: Maybe the reason he was online looking for a friend with benefits rather than a real relationship is because he knows hes fickle and enjoys newness more than intimacy.
Maybe he isnt comfortable having sex with someone he actually likes.
Maybe combining sex and friendship is too much like a relationship in all that it entails, and he doesnt want one.
Maybe hes just not that into you anymore.
It doesnt really matter why the sexual part of your relationship is over. Just accept it. If you can, youve got a great friend.
Dear Cheryl: Im 6 feet 1 inch tall and completely in love with a man who is 5 feet 5 inches tall. I used to think that I had to be with a man who was my height or taller, but as I got older I became more comfortable with my height. Then along came Ken. He swept me right off my size 11 feet. I would have missed out big time if I hadnt given him a chance.
People like to stare at us, especially if Im in high heels, but I know how much of a man he is, and together we make a gorgeous couple. Who Says Were Lopsided?
Dear WSWL?: Not me. If people chucked their preconceived notions about who they should date, theyd broaden their experiences, increase their options and have a much better chance finding Mr. or Ms. Right.
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